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Hey there! My name is Amar, Im 19 and I am from Pakistan. I come from a family with very strict traditions and morals and so far I have never had the chance to have a serious relationship as I was always expected to study and have good grades at school. This is my first year studying abroad and away from my family and I really wanted to try out the dating life. However, I am not too sure if I should try dating different girls first or go straight into aserious relationship. What are your thoughts on both?

15.12.2020 5 Answers

RajK commented on 15.12.2020

I know how you feel… I had a similar story but with an arranged marriage and I did not really like the girl that my parents chose for me. But with me it was a different story I sat down and spoke with them and after long debates they agreed to give me the right of my own choice. When I came to Bern it was very awkward for me, I did not know what to do. At first I went to a lot of parties with the intentions to find a girlfriend but then I realised this will happen by itself… sooo I decided to just live my life, focus on my studies and I know that someday I will meet her. I think you should take your time and explore first your university and the people in the social environment and from then on it will slowly progress. Be patient

MichaelF commented on 15.12.2020

I think you are too young for a serious relationship tbh.. take your time you are just a fresher now, go and have fun and focus on your studies. If you get a girlfriend now you will have to devote time with her as well and this might distract you from your goal, which should be to graduate successfully. Idk this is just my opinion… do whatever you feel is right

SandraB commented on 15.12.2020

From a girl’s point of view I think you should follow your heart… your studies are important but if you meet a girl and fall in love why not pursue that? I think you will be able to handle your studies even in a serious relationship… there is no excuse for love

ZoeH commented on 15.12.2020

You should stop thinking about it… just live your life and if its meant to be it will happen. This is my philosophy, simple as that.

JohnG commented on 15.12.2020

Your 20s are a very delicate phase in your life… This is the time that you will explore yourself, see what you want, what you like. Id say give yourself some time and dont rush it but rather try to understand what you want for your own self. In terms of relationships I think that the more experience you have the better because this will show you what exactly are you looking for in your future partner.